What if your outfit doesn’t fit the vibe? Is there something stuck in your teeth? Does your cologne smell too strong? Did you forget your wallet?

You got all these questions running in your head, and eventually, they will make you feel even more anxious. Don’t worry, we got you, gentlemen! There is always a first time for everything. Your date is not expecting perfection. But it would definitely help if you could present the best version of yourself to make a great impression, right? To do that, let’s dive in deeper and look at five common mistakes people make on the first date. And hopefully you’re not making them!

1. Show Up Late

Showing up late to a date is a big no-no!

Not arriving on time on a date is such a red flag and a total turn off for some people. Also, arriving late on an actual date from online dating will not help with the nerves but it will only make you more anxious. You’ll be rushing everywhere and stressing, and who knows – accidents might happen along the way.

Yes, we get it – there’s traffic. And don’t even get us started on finding a parking spot! That is exactly why you should plan ahead. If the date is 30 minutes away, try to leave at least an hour earlier. By doing so, you can take your time and avoid unnecessary stress.

It’s always better to arrive early than to risk being late.

2. Not dressing for The Occasion

Wearing the right outfit matters.

This might sound like common dating etiquette, but it is actually one of the biggest mistakes people make. You have got to dress to impress. Women often put it a lot of effort to look presentable on the first date. So, guys – you should return the same energy and step up your style game! If you’re having dinner at a restaurant that doesn’t have a strict dress code, the safest bet is to wear a smart-casual outfit. It strikes the perfect balance between looking presentable and feeling comfortable.

Now, if your first date consists of doing outdoor activities such as hiking or rock climbing – please don’t show up in a formal suit. Dress for the activity. Show that you care about the date by choosing an outfit that fits the setting—it sends the message that you’re thoughtful and considerate.

3. Checking Your Phone All the Time

Stop looking at your phone!

Constantly checking your phone on a date can leave an impression that you’re bored, distracted, or just not that interested. That’s definitely not the vibe you want to give off. Be present, stay engaged and keep the conversation flowing by asking follow-up questions. Just keep that phone away and show that you can give full attention especially if you’re genuinely trying to pursue this woman.

Of course, if there’s a real reason you need to have your phone nearby – maybe you have kids or you have someone to care for – be honest and give your date a heads up. Communicate with your date so they won’t misread your behavior.

A little communication can go a long way in avoiding mixed signals.

4. Going On and On About an Ex

Let’s be real – if you keep bringing up your ex, you probably haven’t moved on yet, right?

It’s time to get over it. You and your ex are history. So, stop talking or compare them to your first date. Your date wants to get to know you, not listen to your past relationship drama. It can be really annoying if you keep talking about your ex. It gives the impression that you’re not mentally and emotionally ready to start something new.

If you know that you get nervous and will go blank, prepare a list of questions or topics beforehand. You could talk about your career plan, things you love doing during the weekend, a little bit about your family (if you’re comfortable), or even your favourite brunch spot. These things are way more interesting that taking a trip down memory lane.

In short, talking or reminiscing about an ex will not make you seem deep, it just makes you seem like a walking red flag.  

5. Being Rude to the Waiter or Waitress

You know you’re not impressing anyone with that bad attitude, right?

Being rude to the hospitality staff does not make you cool. Honestly, it only makes you look insecure. And honestly? It’s a major turn-off. Your date will likely feel super uncomfortable sitting across someone who’s snapping at the people who are doing their job and trying to serve your food.

C’mon lads – you can do better than this. The way you treat restaurant staff says a lot about who you really are. It gives the impression that you think you are above everyone else and your ego might be a little too big to manage. Trust us, it’s another red flag your date can’t just simply ignore. She might be thinking, “If he talks to the staff like that, how would he treat me in the future?” Boom – there goes your shot.

So, be kind, stay respectful and remember being polite never goes out of style.

Final Words

First dates can be nerve-racking, but they should also be fun! So, relax, enjoy the moment, and most importantly—be yourself. You don’t need to pretend to be someone you’re not. Just show up, be kind, stay present, and let your personality shine.

Now go out there and make a great first impression—you’ve got this!